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My husband has been having an affair with a woman for about 2 years. I decided to stick it out with him because I felt he was going through a mid-life crisis. I took the infidelity but the baby is more than I can take. We have been married for 25 years and have been together for I just don't see how our marriage will work. Post reply.

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“My Husband Got Another Woman Pregnant”

Monday, September 09, I frequently read your column and hope you will be able to give me some advice. In I got involved with a former college mate and things were going fine. I know he was interested in a relationship since college, back in , and I was too. However, at the time I thought we were both too young to get deeply involved, so after college we both went our separate ways, until The relationship progressed, but there were tell-tale signs that I was not the only one he was seeing.

I thought it over and realised that all I would have been doing was speculating, irrespective of all the text messages which I got in error. These wrong messages urged me to read his e-mail, which I know I should not have done, but I guess such is the human mind.

Things I saw in his mail box just made it worse, as all the messages and promises which he made the other girls were there in black and white. Again, I decided to stay. In early we decided to buy a house together, which indicated to me his intention of commitment and a more stable relationship.

To my dismay, in when he went back to work he works overseas he sent me a message advising that he has a two-month-old son. This came as a shock and I was sad and eventually angry as I now had confirmation of his infidelity. Time passed, and I eventually started to get over it and accept the fact that the child had nothing to do with his actions and began to encourage him to visit the child and also take the child out whenever he is here in Jamaica.

He is now home on vacation and one day I called him and heard a child in the background. I know he was at our house and I asked whose baby that was. He told me it was his son. The following day I asked if he could not tell me he was taking the child to our house from the best of my knowledge this would be the first time.

He told me he did not see it necessary, which made me upset. The argument went on, until he made it clear to me that he does not have to report anything to me.

Counsellor, since then, our relationship has not been the same. Please correct me if I am wrong, but I consider his actions very disrespectful to me and the union we share. Since this incident, which happened eight weeks ago, I have been wondering if it really makes sense to continue. I asked what he expects from a relationship art he said someone to be there for him. This doesn't make sense to him, given that in five years' time he does not see himself getting married.

In all that has happened, which includes me having a full-time time job which is very demanding, I still find the time to cater to all his needs and wants. When he was not working I helped with his bills and carried new house expenses without his help.

I was also pregnant at the time and so was his child's mother! Sadly, I lost mine, and list could go on. For the past eight weeks, I only have been talking to him on a need-to basis as when I try to talk about the situation he shuts down and acts very defensive. The fundamental mistake you and many women and men make in approaching relationships is to ignore the red flags. Some of the arguments advanced are:.

Note that the tendency is to take personal responsibility for the actions of the other person so as to maintain the existence as opposed to the survival of the relationship. A relationship built on such an unstable foundation will not withstand the challenges that all relationships face from time to time. The truth is many persons in their euphoric state at the beginning of a relationship don their 'blinkers' or their shades and focus only on the emotional component of the relationship while totally disregarding the rationale component.

So, your curiosity led you to peruse his email and there before your eyes was incriminating evidence in "black and white", as you put it. Why didn't you confront him then? The fact that you received the messages in error would be another justifiable reason to engage him in a conversation on the discovery. He could not then accuse you of prying into his personal mail. This was the first opportunity that you missed, as at that point you could have made a more informed decision.

This maxim always has value: "When in doubt, check it out". Had you done that, you probably would not be in this present predicament.

The decision to jointly purchase a house, though commendable, may have been ill-advised, seeing that you were most cognisant of the fact that the gentleman had no intentions of settling down in a committed relationship.

So, when he states that he does not have to report to you that he took the child to the house, he is right, as technically speaking he owns a percentage of the property and is entitled to access same.

God forbid he should take a lady there, would he advance the same argument? Your assertion that he disrespected you is not unfounded, but informing you after the fact regarding the birth of his son is even more disrespectful.

He could have shared the news with you earlier instead of waiting 'till the child was two months old. What does that say about his regard or more so, lack of regard for you and the relationship? That he doesn't see himself getting married in five years, yet wants somebody to be there for him is a very telling declaration and clearly indicates where his head is. The truth is, sister, the relationship is on very unstable ground and the time spent apart must be used to dispassionately assess its present state.

You must receive an equal proportion of what you invest in a relationship. If you don't, frustration and depression will envelop you. Happiness and peace of mind are indicators of a healthy relationship and if these are absent for a prolonged period and there is no prospect of improvement, then it may be time for you to pack your bags and go. Now you can read the Jamaica Observer ePaper anytime, anywhere. We welcome reader comments on the top stories of the day.

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My husband got another woman pregnant

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Okay here is the deal. I was with my boyfriend for 4 years and we broke up for a period of a month.

Join now to personalize. My husband got another woman pregnant. My husband got another woman pregnant and the child is now a year old. It put great strain on us at first but after long talks, I told him that I would not come between him and his son as long as the affair is over with her.

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WHEN I found out after 24 years of marriage that my husband had been having an affair, I really thought our relationship was over. However, my husband managed to convince me the affair was over, and that he'd never do anything like it again. Neither of us wanted our marriage to end, so after counselling and some heart-searching, I forgave him. As we really talked about our relationship for the first time in a while, I felt things were better than ever and he told me he felt the same way. However, I have now learned that the woman he had an affair with is expecting his baby any day now, and I feel betrayed all over again. He says he never knew she was pregnant — but how can he say with one breath that he loves me, and in the next, lie to me like this? Before you decide anything, you need to establish when this pregnancy occurred. If the baby is due any day now, then it's possible she became pregnant before your husband finished his relationship with her. She may not have even told him she was pregnant, and he might just have found out. If that's the case, then this is just a further complication that you are going to have to resolve.

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I had been dating my boyfriend Rob for about a week when he made this pronouncement. Rob has never been anything other than totally upfront about his life. He is divorced, he is a dad to an autistic son, he survived a heart attack, and he is in a seven-year polyamorous relationship with his girlfriend.

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I went storming off back home and he thought we were over, so decided he might as well go out with his mates. He met up with this girl in the pub. We both know her. She told me about it three weeks ago. I cried and cried when I confronted him about it.

My husband is having a baby with his mistress.

Monday, September 09, I frequently read your column and hope you will be able to give me some advice. In I got involved with a former college mate and things were going fine. I know he was interested in a relationship since college, back in , and I was too. However, at the time I thought we were both too young to get deeply involved, so after college we both went our separate ways, until The relationship progressed, but there were tell-tale signs that I was not the only one he was seeing. I thought it over and realised that all I would have been doing was speculating, irrespective of all the text messages which I got in error. These wrong messages urged me to read his e-mail, which I know I should not have done, but I guess such is the human mind.

Things were going so good but then last week I find out he has another girl pregnant and she's 8 months. I cried for hours and felt so much anxiety. When He told.

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Comments: 3
  1. Nabar

    I apologise, but, in my opinion, you are mistaken. Let's discuss it. Write to me in PM, we will communicate.

  2. Mojind

    Bravo, your idea it is very good

  3. Mikajar

    Certainly. And I have faced it.

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